my favorite tip is to say "I really want to work for your company, but the salary isn't where I would like it to be. What can you do to improve the number."
Often employers have some room to move and this way you don't have to give a hard salary requirement.
Based on our historic experience with men, if they treat us like that over email, it is probable they will treat us like that in person. His behaviour made her feel unsafe. Why would you knowing put yourself into an unsafe situation.
I don't believe that this is specific to men. If an individual is threatening over email then it is more probable that they will be threatening in person in general.
If Mark's behavior made the author feel threatened then she has the right to avoid further interaction with him. But as others have pointed out, the emails sent are not threatening in the way that the author describes them, and there isn't really any evidence of "harassment". The author describes Mark's "intensity" while working with him at the Hackathon. It seems likely that this intensity carries over into the way he writes emails as well, which made the author feel unsafe.
Treat you like what? Where was the threat in the email? Did he call OP a "bitch", "slut", etc? Did he belittle her? He asked her for his share of the prize and said that if she didn't then he would pursue it unilaterally.
Since when did that mean he was going to physically harm her? Sorry, I believe sexual harassment occurs in the tech industry and should be stamped out, but this is not a case of it.
Tis is NOT a case of sexual harassment. He might be unknowingly threatening (best case scenario, the one i believe), or downright manipulative, either way she do not want to work with him. He joined her on the project and she offered to give him 2 of the 3 tickets then he started his passive-agressive emails. I got those from people i worked with too, every time i just left the project (mainly because it was never mine). This type of passive-agressive behaviour exist very much in tech, mainly because this behaviour is related with self-entitlment and goes well with smug personnalities.
It isn't claiming to be sexual Harassment, but Harassment in general. This story would be equally awful it it happened to a man. However, a man wouldn't have to think about his personal safety as much by attending the event they won. So the result of the Harassment plays out differently for each gender.
> a man wouldn't have to think about his personal safety as much by attending the event they won
This is a part I'm not sure to understand. You were supposed to hold a booth in a summit, which I assume was in a public setting. Surely, this should have been a serious deterrent on any physical assault. If despite this your partner started threatening you, wouldn't it have been possible to get the security to step in?
A man generally is not at the same disadvantage physically should someone decide to attack or overpower them. Even if things were uncomfortable they could reasonably expect to defend themselves.
What is your #WITBragDay Post? Here is mine. "Over 100 million people have used code I wrote. Me and 5 guys made sure @BlackBerry was secure in 2004. I am on 20+ patents. #WITBragDay"
In the original article, the author's claim was "the most welcoming industry I’ve seen" while your founder describes it as "Claiming the whole industry is welcoming is in invalidating their experience" and proceeds to argue against that.
Unfortunately, this is the very definition of a straw man.
